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We have heard about rigorous, totalitarian Eastern upbringings a bit lately, with Amy Chua’s book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother recounting countless music practice sessions after school and studies showing that Eastern parents place higher emphasis on children’s academic achievement. But what we do n’t hear about are the many reasons why Asian families might be so demanding of their children.

One reason is that in most Asian nations, ancestor adoration and paternal religiosity are highly valued. Families expect their youngsters to carry on the family brand, serve their in- laws and respect and honor their seniors, including families. Children are taught to get polite and silent, quiet and deferential. Emotional outbursts are discouraged, and children who fail to meet their kids’ aspirations are shamed ( also known as “losing face” ). Parents are seldom upcoming with affection or compliment because of the fear that they will encourage laziness.

In inclusion, extended communities are frequent in Eastern neighborhoods and two or three generations does live under the same roof. In many of these people, the dad is head of household and major decisions are made by him. Adult babies, despite their education and professional requirements, are expected to stay home to take care of the old members of the household. This is especially true in China, where daughters are considered poor to brothers. It is for these factors that it can be challenging for Asians to take that their babies are unable to fulfill selected familial expectations and needs.

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